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10 Great Tips for Surviving Divorce
1. Get a therapist. If you’re going through divorce, you’ll most likely need someone to talk to—and friends and family don’t count. You need someone who can help you work through your emotions so you’re free to make better decisions.
2. Ask questions. Your divorce attorney has answers about the legal process, what happens next, and other related questions, so ask away.
3. Put your children first. If you’re like most parents, you will—but it’s important to remember that their needs supersede yours right now, and they need you (and your soon-to-be ex) to put them first.
4. Set long-term goals. Where do you want to be in 5 years? 10? Knowing what you want after your divorce is complete will put you on the right path to get there.
5. Try to collaborate with your spouse. It’s hard to see eye-to-eye during divorce, but the more you and your spouse can agree on during the process, the simpler your divorce will be. (When you and your spouse can’t agree on things, you force the judge in your case to make decisions for you—and the outcome is out of your hands at that point.)
6. Don’t use the courts for emotional justice. The court system is set up to dissolve your marriage, not to exact revenge on your spouse. Don’t try to use it that way.
7. Remember that you’ll always be parents. One day, you’ll sit near your ex at your kids’ weddings. You’ll have to talk about summer vacations, rules, and your kids’ day-to-day lives… so try to keep things as civil as you can right now.
8. Be prepared for the fact that you may lose some friends. Whether the friends you made as a couple take sides, avoid you, or simply don’t know what to say, know that some of them won’t be there for you like you’d expect. It’s unfortunate, but it happens.
9. Know that most divorce cases settle. No matter how much you fight during the process, the odds are that your divorce case will settle between you and your ex. (It’s also more expensive to litigate, and it’ll cause your divorce to drag on; that might be some of the reason that most cases eventually settle.)
10. Get help for your kids if they need it. Just like you may need counseling to work through your emotions, your kids might too—and by giving them an impartial third party to talk to, you’re setting them up for emotional success.
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